This past weekend TC and I celebrated 12 years of wedded bliss...the month before we celebrated 16 years of togetherness - we toasted to the fact we haven't maimed or killed each other yet.
Now a days 12 years seems like a lifetime. We have unfortunately seen a number of our friends go through divorces.
Some of them we knew it was just a matter of time...as in sitting at thier wedding enjoying the open bar and taking bets with others just how long it will last.
With others - separation and divorce rocked us to our core. These couples were ones we thought would last forever - the "so in love" couples...
However, the dimise of our friends marriages has had an unexpected perk...strengthing our relationship...
When the conversation starts with "Did you hear about Bob and Sue..." so far it has usually led to a picking apart of their relationship and what went wrong...for some it was infidelity...others some form of mid-life crisis...others simply grew up together and realized that while they were in the same place 10 years ago - with the same hopes and dreams...those have changed and a compromise just can't be reached...
But in picking apart their relationships...it builds up ours - a weird form of marriage counseling I guess - we have a chance to talk about infidelity...to take in an non-threatening conversation about how each of us has changed over the years...some for better...and some for worse. It has opened our eyes and made us take a hard look at our life and realize we truely do love our life and each other...
So here is to another 12 years...and another and hopefully...maybe even another...
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Congrats on 12 years. My husband and I do the same thing (talk about other's marriages).
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